A life in process....
Janet is on the bleeding edge of the largest generation ever, the baby boomers. "It's called the grey tsunami for a reason," she says, "we will overwhelm society with our evolving needs, changing everything that matters to our huge demographic." Will this wave be destructive or creative? If it's up to Janet, the last chapter will be the best chapter of our lives.
But first things first. Janet is an identical twin. She calls Judi "my other half."
They were the oldest girls in a family of seven, and on the first day of the new millennium, decided to work together as family caregivers for their parents, "if and when the time came".
That didn't take long. At first, the dwindling was slow and hard to talk about. We identified ourselves as daughters "helping out". Our parents resisted the idea that they needed care. But within a few more years, everyone was on the same page. Mom and Dad could not accomplish many of the Activities of Daily Living without Judi and Janet pitching in. The decade of caregiving ended gently, with everyone knowing that there was no cure for dwindling. When the decade was over, both Janet and Judi were transformed.
Judi continues to live in Calgary while Janet lives on the West Coast of Canada with her husband of 42 years and two grown children nearby. Between her writing and advocacy work on behalf of family caregiving, she is exploring the joys of being a grandmother.